The last bit of advice that I want to give you is that you should cut yourself some slack. It’s okay that you’ve taken on too much in a world that’s designed to wear down your ability to make good decisions. Rather than punishing yourself or attempting to bury your urges, listen with curiosity to what thoughts and feelings are behind those impulses.
If there’s one thing that I’ve learnt over the past couple of years of building habits and my personal development journey; it is an unending process. There will always be a struggle and that’s okay. The sooner you learn that, the sooner you realise that you can start to show up and actually enjoy it. Enjoy those moments where you’re just not getting it. Get used to trying over and over and over again until you get it right. It’s completely okay to screw up.
You don’t owe everyone your best self, you owe yourself and deserving individuals your best self. Don’t waste your energy where it isn’t appreciated or reciprocated and regardless of how far in the moment you might’ve gone it really isn’t a play of interest to stay there. It drains you; your energy, resources and drive which you need to survive and support those who actually deserve it.
We live in a busy world and it is important to remember that everything and everyone out there on social media is competing for your attention because that’s how much of an asset you are to them. You get to choose who or what you’re paying attention to. Paying attention is exchanging value; your content for my time and time is luxury. Your pick is one in a million. If indeed you believe what you’d give attention to is worthwhile, so be it but if you want a run for your time and perhaps money, every single pick should add to your knowledge shelf and make you a better person. Remember, your greatest threat is ignorance.
At 20 years old, I don’t worry about failure as much as I used to. Of course I’m not trying to fail and I don’t want to fail but I understand that it is literally the price you pay for trying anything.
As individuals we flinch in so many ways and we prevents ourselves from doing the things that we really want to do in life. For me, I was flinching pretty hard when I was thinking about starting my blog. Currently, I flinch every time I have to put myself out there; social media posts, blog posts, etc. I would hope that it doesn’t have to be that way but then I remember that no one achieved anything in their comfort zone so I have to get comfortable being uncomfortable. For you, it may be starting that YouTube channel, blog, trying photography for the first time or taking cold showers. The point is the more we push ourselves into discomfort, the more we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities.
I believe there are times to think things through and there are times to vomit onto the page and journaling could offer both things depending on how you feel at a particularly time. Nevertheless, simply writing down your feelings or worries doesn’t make everything end but it is therapeutic to validate your feelings. It stops you from running away from your thoughts or pretending like they didn’t exist because some things aren’t meant to be shared with anybody else, they’re just meant to be understood, for ourselves.
Myers Briggs is basically a system which carefully segregates the broad spectrum of introversion and extroversion which was propounded by Carl Jung into sixteen personality types. It is important to note that no one personality type is better than another. Myers Briggs isn’t designed to look for abnormality or dysfunction in any personality type. Instead its goal is to help you learn more about yourself.